Church Security
Children; Our future, our hope
In my last blog, I spoke about the dangers of child predators and some of the things that can be done to mitigate this risk. People that abuse children do not necessarily look like Jack the Ripper, or ET. They can seem to be very “normal” citizens often serving in places of authority. I came across such a case just a few weeks ago that was a stark reminder to vet, educate, and train those that help our kids.
Naason Joaquin Garcia, the controversial leader of the 5 million-member Light of the World, who’s accused of multiple sex crimes, including making sex videos with minor girls from his flock, will go on trial in Los Angeles on Sept. 27.
Church volunteers and staff need to be trained in the identification of a possible child predator, and how to identify sexual abuse through physical and behavioral change.
The warning signs that parents and caregivers should look for are numerous. Here are just a few:
This individual…
- No adult friends and prefers spending time around children;
- Makes excuses to be alone with a child or young teen;
- Ignores a child’s verbal or physical cues that he or she does not want to be touched;
- Doesn’t respect a child’s or teen’s privacy;
- Gives a child or teen money or gifts for no reason;
- Discusses or asks a child or teen to discuss sexual experiences or feelings;
- Known to view pornography (In addition to being an important behavioral sign, possessing, viewing and/or selling child pornography is a criminal offense and should be reported.)
But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever. – 1 Timothy 5:8
Physical Changes
How can you know, then, if a child has been sexually abused?
Child sexual abuse can include a variety of touching and non-touching behaviors. Many of these behaviors do not leave any physical signs, so it is difficult to reliably tell when a child is being sexually abused. It’s important for parents to know that while some physical and behavioral changes can be present in cases of sexual abuse, sexual abuse may or may not be the source of those changes. For the most part, these changes are signs that a child or teen is under stress or has experienced some sort of trauma.
Behavioral Changes
Changes in a child’s or teen’s behavior can sometimes be clues that sexual abuse has occurred. However, just like physical signs, these changes can be brought on by other stresses and events. Again, there is no foolproof checklist of signs that will flag for you whether a child has been sexually abused. Still, vigilant parents and caretakers should be aware of some of the behaviors reported in children who have been previously sexually abused such as headaches, stomach pain, loss of appetite, and sleeping problems are some of the ways children may respond physically to the anxiety, confusion, anger, fear and shame that can be brought on by sexual abuse. These physical symptoms, however, can also be associated with many other stresses that children experience as a result of family or school problems, so don’t immediately conclude that sexual abuse has occurred if you notice them.
Have you seen these behaviors in your children?
- Expressed unwillingness/fear to be left in the care of a certain person or to play with a particular child;
- Reluctance or fear of certain places, such as bathrooms.
- Change in the child’s behavior when a particular person is present, e.g. a usually outgoing child
- Becomes quiet or withdrawn or an easygoing child becomes agitated and unruly;
- The use of new words to describe genitalia or sexual behavior;
- Sudden self-consciousness about genitals;
- Sexual behavior that is inappropriate for the age of the child, such as a young child “french kissing”.
- Involving other children in sexual behaviors or using toys or dolls to act out sexual scenarios;
- Having money, new clothes, video games or other personal items and you are unaware how the child or teen received these and from whom;
- Discomfort or reluctance in giving details about time spent with another adult or child;
- Clinging, anxious, irritable behavior;
- Regression to babyish habits, such as thumb-sucking or bedwetting;
- Fearful behavior towards examination of the mouth;
- Nightmares, bedwetting, fear of the dark, difficulty falling asleep, new fears;
- Increase or decrease in appetite.
The outline of physical and behavioral changes may be an indication of abuse, but not necessarily, especially if found as an isolated issue. Often physical abuse will be accompanied by behavioral issues. In any case, the lists and descriptions above are not exhaustive. Any unexplainable changes to your child’s physical or behavioral state should be examined. If you notice unexplained changes in your child, please seek professional help. What is most important though is making certain these things never happen in the first place.
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Glenn McLea | Sr. Advisor – Security
Glenn is a true security and solutions professional. He served 15 years in the United States Army, primarily in Frankfurt, Germany, retiring as a First Lieutenant. He is fluent in German and speaks Spanish and Portuguese. Achievements during his military commitment include Airborne, Ranger, Top Secret Clearance, and the Meritorious Service Medal.
Since retirement from the Army, Glenn has worked in the private sector exclusively as a security expert and consultant to several large international and U.S. companies. He specializes in assessing risks and threats to company interests, operations, and personnel worldwide, and development and implementation of successful strategies to reduce or eliminate all known or anticipated security risks. OSA is honored to have Glenn as part of our Team!!
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